How Much Is Too Much?
“But avoid stupid controversies, genealogies, quarrels, and fights about the Torah; because they are worthless and futile. Warn a divisive person once, then a second time; and after that, have nothing more to do with him. You may be sure that such a person has been perverted and is sinning: he stands self-condemned.” Titus 3:9-11
How many times have we had the arguers, the nit-pickers, the fault finders, the accusers, the pessimists, the more than healthy debaters? How many times have we been these? Or even one of these?
When we know what the truth is, and someone disputes the truth, our feathers get ruffled for one, and secondly, we are so passionate about the truth we, as Christians, want to prove to the other person that what they are saying is wrong. I’ve already encountered this myself. I have found with some people, who when I tell them I love them and that I do not argue, but merely state what I believe, explaining to them I refuse to argue the word of God, they sometimes become even more irate.
So, the big question; God wants us to witness, of course…but when a person argues you (which oftentimes is going to happen upon witnessing to many types of people), how much is too much?
The Bible clearly tells us here in Titus 3:9-11 what to do…two times, and after that, have ‘nothing’ more to do with that person. Furthermore, the disciples were told that any place they went who rejected them, to shake the dust from their sandals and don’t look back.
If it is someone who is in our lives on a somewhat regular basis, are we ‘not’ to continue to witness to them? Yes, but in a different way.
If a person will not receive the truth, at that point, we need to pray for them earnestly; conduct spiritual warfare on behalf of the person. Secondly, we need to be a good example. Always be kind, generous, and loving toward them, never showing any anger, hatred, or partiality. Live your life around them and away from them righteously, and with love. Do to them as you would do for yourself. If you are able, post things with scriptures around your work area; pray over your food openly at lunchtime; perform kind acts toward others..not for eye service, but for God. Do all things as if for God, because everything you do, both good and bad, will be counted as though we did it to God when we must kneel before Him in judgment. Live your life each and every moment as if Jesus Christ is right there with you. Let me remind us all; whether saved or unsaved, we are always being watched by angels of light who report our every move to the Father, and by angels of darkness who report our every move to Satan…and when I say ‘everything’, I mean everything! There is not a thought that goes through our minds, a word that proceeds from our mouths, or an act that our flesh commits that goes unnoticed…not even one. For nothing is hidden from the Lord our God.
As I’ve said before, and I’ll say again, I am a firm believer that everything happens in the spiritual places first. So what we say, what we do, what we think, and what we pray is going to predict what happens in our tomorrow, as well as in other people’s tomorrows. We move mountains, boulders, the earth, and the heavens when we spend quality time kneeling before Adonai, our heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Over and over in Proverbs, King Solomon reminds us that gentle words are more effective than harsh words, and a gentle spirit is more effective than a harsh spirit. We are reminded in James of the power of the tongue. We are reminded in Hebrews that faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen…repetitively in the Holy Scriptures, we are reminded that anger, hatred, brash words, haughtiness, arrogance, pride, stubbornness, revenge, jealousy, mockery, rivalry, etc. do not work, and only wreak havoc on our own spirits, and in our own lives. We will be the branch that withers because it does not produce, and therefore gets cut off and cast into the fire.
Messianic Jews (Hebrews) 11:1-5 “Trusting is being confident of what we hope for, convinced about things we do not see. It was for this that scripture attested the merit of the people of old. By trusting, we understand that the universe was created through a spoken word of God, so that what is seen did not come into being out of existing phenomena. By trusting, Hevel (Abel) offered a greater sacrifice than Kayin (Cain); because of this, he was attested as righteous, with God giving him this testimony on the ground of his gifts. Through having trusted, he still continues to speak, even though he is dead. By trusting, Hanokh (Enoch) was taken away from this life without seeing death—“he was not to be found because God took him away”—for he has been attested as having been, prior to be taken away, well pleasing to God.”
The other evening I was praying, and the Lord asked me, “Lyn, who are you striving to please as you are writing these posts; man or God?”
I already knew the answer, but because He was asking me this, I pondered it anyway before answering. “I feel that I am doing this for you, Lord. Sure, it pleases me when people compliment what has been written with my hand; though this is not my intention. My intention is to glorify You, to please You, and to be a vessel through which you can tell people what it is you want to share. I love to talk about You, write about You, and share with the world the joy I have in You, and through my experiences, how You have brought me up from the miry pit and saved me. I want people to have the same hunger I do, and I want them to know that the day is at hand that was spoken of in Your word. I am so passionate about You, Father. This is how I feel; but Father, if inside of me somewhere that I am not seeing there is some other motive, I pray You reveal this to me so that I can repent before You and fix it.”
Then the Lord replied, with a smile in His voice, “Very good. I wanted you to think about it so that you never allow your motive to change in the future. Continue in humility, and continue in solely desiring to please me, and in that, blessing shall come to you, and to those who receive me through you, by the power of My Holy Spirit.”
What is your motive? Be honest with yourself. If your motive is to please God and to save the lost through the power of God’s word, then your motive is true. If your motive is self-glorification, then you will find you will become angry and defensive more often than not. There is a difference between righteous anger and righteous defensiveness of God’s word, and personal anger and defensiveness. Think about it, and ask God, and if after having done this there is even so much as a little bit of self included, then go to God and repent, and ask Him for His help; He will help you.
I know this mentioning is somewhat off of the topic, but felt it went in its own sense, and felt moved to say this. We are here for the same reason—to win the lost, and to help our sisters and brothers who are struggling. Let us not be separated by pride, silly rules, haughtiness, or arrogance. Let us all strive to please Him; and if someone else posts something that is of the Lord on your page, who are you to judge that the Lord didn’t have that person do that because, though it was away from your topic, maybe someone who needed to read/or see that post that person made would swing by your page, but not the person’s page who posted the comment, video, song, whatever it was? How would you feel if God did indeed cause that happen, and you reprimanded that individual, and deleted it from your page? Maybe it was just the thing someone else needed to stumble upon. Pray and think before you do. His word tells us to consider Him in “ALL” things..not some things, but all; and we cannot let our own selfish pride or ego rule what we do here.
I’m not here to receive glorification, and I’m not here to ‘own’ MY page..because it’s not my page..it is God’s page…if it’s inoffensive and glorifies Him, I welcome it, and I welcome you, my dear friends in the body of Christ.